‘I’ve to go back in again tomorrow!’
‘I’m weak, look at how I performed today.’
‘I’m clearly not good enough to be in this place.’
‘I don’t fit in.’
‘This person doesn’t like me and I’m only a distraction to them when they’re trying to focus, that’s all I am there.’
You can only know and empathise with people as much as you can with yourself.
Beneath broiling emotions is a self that is fulfilled, light and needs nothing.
A sense of energy and emotions in the body, knowing where they are stuck and needing release.
My mind and self-worth works primarly based on how people perceive me, and I see the depth I strive everyday to maintain a certain image of myself.
- I tend to be overly chatty and joking, to protect myself against judgement from other people. Distract them by fake movements and facade so they are left with a favourable view of me, even it it isn’t the ‘real me’. It’s a social survival tactic and has done me no favours in attracting and keeping people worth having in my life.
- Crippling self consciousness of what other people think of me (the previous point means this becomes a vicious circle, the pressuring need to continue the act).
- Afraid of offending or pissing people off, and having no confidence to back myself in confrontation.
- My self-worth at some point, became tied to what intelligent and more self-respecting people thought of me. This is pretty dangerous when you consider how I could treat myself if even one of these people didn’t like me for whatever reason.
- Knowing that I can heal from anything. If you can fix this belief right into the core of your being, you’re doing better than most people.
- Knowing that I’ve got my back in confrontations. Staying in your own side when you feel it is right and backing yourself up. Cultivating an inner loyalty.
- Knowing that I’m worthy, no matter what. I’ve talked about this tonnes of times in my previous posts. Self-worth not being tied to performance, or whatever measuring stick you or someone else is using on you. You’re an independent human being living on this planet, configure it from there.
- Accepting your imperfections. Easier said than done but again, it’s knowing you’re worthy despite them. It’s the birthplace of everlasting strength.
What have your experiences have been with social anxiety? Does anyone feel like the more they’ve moved through life, that they’ve been able to cope better? Or even if there was just one thing you did to alleviate it, what was it?
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Tribe for me is a group of people who share similar or the same values. A connection that runs deep, perhaps even in mysterious undertones that one can’t identify with words but can feel spiritually, innately to be a right fit.