Walking that crucial path means being more risky and take actions that are against your status quo. You begin to move in foreign lands and you build new road maps of your life. Consequently, it becomes more accurate, colourful yet deep and meaningful like contour numbers conveying depth.
If you do this long and consistently enough (being sure to comfort and reassure yourself along the way), you begin to realise how illusory your fear really is. As it fades, possibility grows. Liberated, you realise how you thought, act and generally how you were previously was so unnecessary. You stop self identifying with the past.
Travelling, for example, was one of my biggest first leaps of faith that required courage, resilience and trust in myself and for whatever was in store for me. I learned that the world is not as scary as the news makes it out to be, and people are mostly good no matter what continent you’re on. I learned indirectly from counselling to be courageous in extending love to others and at times, I’ve even caught people by surprise by my openness with them because I know on some deep level, they resonate with my honesty. I learned from writing a book that nothing is not too late to pursue if you have the courage to implement it. If it doesn’t work out, there is always the small comfort of knowing that you tried. But the important part is that you tried and learned instead of allowing fear to swallow the energy you could have used to go for it.
To have fear and do something anyway stems from our core which is determined to grow. Serious growth can be spurred on from our defining sweaty moments of anxiety, uncertainty and self doubt. These definitive moments are intrinsic to your development of identity and self.
What I would say is lean into experiences that we’re afraid of doing and don’t run away from them. In every situation there is a key learning for you and the more experiences you accumulate, the wiser you are and not only that, you begin to see how strong you really are. And you will be shocked.
Your strength is demonstrated and vindicated through practice, whether it’s through a breakup or losing a job. The critical factor here is that you realise it. Once you do, there’s no going back. Fear is reduced, if not eradicated and it’s taunting doesn’t influence you as much. Love can be found in more places than you realised and you see people have the ability to react to love from others, even strangers. You will see things and people for how they really are, not how you thought they were.
The more codes you break the more you come to know yourself, and the world. And I think you will do humanity a great service in doing so.
‘Now you are no longer caught
in the obsession with darkness,
and a desire for higher love-making
sweeps you upward.
Distance does not make you falter.
Now, arriving in magic, flying,
and finally, insane for the light,
you are the butterfly and you are gone.
And so long as you haven’t experienced
this: to die and so to grow,
you are only a troubled guest
on the dark earth.’
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe